2 January, 2020
Sexual predators are the most hated creatures on Earth. They use the little power they have and use it in the worst way one can imagine. Such people don’t think about the impact it will leave on the other person. This shows how inhuman these people are. It would be an insult to the animals if we call rapists animal. It is a very big issue but it isn’t taken as seriously as it should be. This is the reason that such cases haven’t gone down even with all strict laws.
It affects every aspect of life and for a long time when a person faces sexual assault, harassment, abuse, or rape. There is a difference in all four of them; it’s discussed below. What makes them worse is not dealing the right way. If you don’t stay strong, you will only be motivating criminals and punishing yourself. Here I’ve shared what you need to do when someone dominates or tries to dominate you sexually.
It’s Not About Gender or Age
There was once a time when the concept of sexual abuse victims was just limited to women. It was discovered with time that these predators don’t really see gender or age and that the assaulter isn’t always a man. According to the stats published by WCASA (Wisconsin Coalition Against Sexual Assault), on third of all women in the United States are raped at least one time in thier life and one seventh of all boys are sexually assaulted before the age of 18.
It shows that anyone can be a victim and anyone can be a molester irrespective of age or gender. No matter which class you belong to, you should know that you are not alone and that you need to fight this. No one will judge you. Though most of the victims usually are females, it was found that men also face harassment from women. They don’t come out because they think no one will believe them and it will instead hurt their reputation. This school of thought is entirely wrong. You shouldn’t follow what other say or think.
Understand What Has Happened
There have also been many wrong accusations of rape. Biased laws for women caused this trend. The world would decide that the man must be at fault if a woman is saying it. Unfortunately, some women exploited the rights that were made to protect them. That’s why clear definitions of sexual abuse, assault, harassment, and rape were redefined to protect both men, women, and children from molesters and false accusation which is also no less than molestation.
Sexual Abuse
Sexual Abuse refers to inappropriate sexual actions done over a long period of time, usually to kids. If you are underage and have ever faced this issue, you should know that law or the world never goes lenient with people who hurt children. They get the most severe of punishments, and they face a hard time in prison because even criminals hate such people.
Sexual Harassment
Sexual Harassment is when a person is trying to make sexual contact with you without your consent. This could be when a person is putting pressure on you to go out on a date or have sex. If a colleague or employer asks you for sex in return for physical contact, that is also sexual harassment.
Sexual Assault
Sexual Assault is considered of physical nature. It doesn’t necessarily mean rape. If someone has physically approached you with sexual intent without your consent, it will be considered sexual assault. For example, you can file a report for assault if someone touched, groped, rubbed, or kissed you.
Rape
Rape is the most severe form of sexual molestation. The FBI describes following as rape if done without consent.
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Vaginal or anal penetration with an object or part of the body.
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Oral penetration by a sex organ.
It was further explained that no matter how slight the penetration was, it will be considered rape if the victim wasn’t willing. A rapist can face imprisonment of up to twenty years. It can increase to thirty years if the victim was under the age of 15.
Know That It’s Not Your Fault
Many victims start to blame themselves after such an incident. Whether it has happened to you or not, you need to understand that it’s never the victim’s fault no matter what people say. Nothing you did can justify the actions of a rapist. A molester was going to do what he did regardless of any reason. Instead of letting it get to your head, get the fact straight that an evil person did a bad thing to you.
Don’t be a Victim
Such events can scar a person for life, and you need to stop it yourself. What’s done is done, bad things happen and you need to think about the future. Don’t feel like a victim and pity yourself. You should know that every human is special in his/her own way. If you accepted yourself as a victim, you will always be a victim. World further suppresses people that play the victim because they are easy targets. If you let an unfortunate event take over your entire life, you will only attract more bad people.
Stand Against the Culprit
If you shouldn’t play victim than what should you do? The answer is to stand up. You can either stay a victim and miserable or make the molester pay for what he/she has done. If you didn’t stand up, it will keep eating you from inside. You have that anger and pain inside you. It won’t be enough to just cry. Turn these feeling into strength and hold that criminal accountable. Bringing out the fight in you will leave no regrets for the future. You would know that if someone did wrong to you, he/she will face a worse fate. It will give you the confidence that you’re not a victim that anyone can abuse.
Strict actions will save not only you but many other who could have been the victim of that animal. And not everyone would be as strong as you. If you didn’t take action today, it will make these abusers more powerful. They would know that they can get away with anything and repeat their actions. Such people can only be stopped with power for which someone must stand up. If you think you’re weak, you’re not. Law is on your side to protect you.
Acquire Help of a Lawyer
If you are wondering whether it is possible to bring a molester to justice, you’ve taken a step forward. What you need is a Sexual Abuse Lawyer by your side to help you fight. A lawyer understands the laws and our judiciary system. He will guide you through the entire process. You would know exactly what you need to do and how it needs to be done before-hand with the help of a lawyer.
The court doesn’t just take one’s word; they ask for proof. And the opposition party will also have a defense prepared. Lawyers that deal with sexual abuse victims are well versed with every tactic the other party can use. They will prepare you for the court and collect evidence.
Fight to the End
Don’t think about the negative scenarios, stay optimistic, and fight to your best. The path is not easy when you are on the right. You will be pressured, threatened, and scared to back off. If you back at this stage, you will regret it for the rest of your life. It doesn’t matter whether you win or lose the case. The important thing is that you fought and you fought fiercely. Just knowing that you and other people like you can counter attack is more than enough to scare molesters. They will think a thousand times before putting their evil thoughts to practical. Remember, you must let go of the fear of loss in order to fight fiercely.
Let the World Know
While most people keep such incidents only to themselves, I strongly oppose it. Feeling alone is the last thing you would want at such times. Instead of keeping the poison inside you, you should share your pain and feelings with your loved ones. Your friends and family would never want to see you get hurt and do anything to protect you. It is their right to have your trust at the time when you are feeling most vulnerable. They won’t judge you for what happened to you. They will provide you with moral and all other kinds of support to help you stand up.
Don’t Let it Affect Your Future
The entire article is focused on letting your anger out, standing up, fighting back. It is crucial because sexual abuse can leave an impact for a lifetime. The fear won’t let you excel in life. It can also affect your relationships, marriage, and even kids you have or to come. You can either come out a victim or a warrior out of such times. The latter will save your present and future.
Amy Rehan is a guest post manager at Globex Outreach. Her job is to ensure all guest post projects are completed on time and according to client’s requirement
